We can obsess over the situation. "What could I have done?" "What shouldn't I have done?" "Will I be okay?" "Why is it always me?". We can ask ourselves these questions and more and allow our brains to think of absolutely nothing but the situation. Questioning, analysing, critiquing and upsetting over the same thing. Overthinking will get us nowhere.
We can get over it. I've been brought up with the proverb - "whatever happens, happens for a reason". Now I know this saying isn't relevant to situations of illness' or death, but what I'm addressing today is little life situations that mean nothing in the big scale but upset or anger us for a long time nonetheless. Why bother? Because you'll waste your life away obsessing over the tiniest things, trust me. I'll let you in on how I get over it...
Look for the silver lining
Like I just explained - whatever happens, happens for a reason. You can look for a positive in nearly all of life's little downfalls. You didn't get the job you wanted? That's fine. Another one will come along, and the experience of the first will build you up to be more prepared, more ambitious and more thankful. You've had a bad relationship that's not ended well? You're one step closer to the right one. The failures & experiences in our lives make us who we are, you might not realise it now but when you're going to the uni you're enjoying, doing the job you love and are with the person you want to, you will.
It's certainly not the psychologist 'getting-to-the-root' resolution, but if you're anything like me, you'll know that your brain winds you up. The longer you spend alone with your thoughts, the more time you have to dwell on the situation. Distract yourself. Meet up with friends and let them help you become happier without you even realising. Lose yourself in an amazing book or a TV series (my current choice: Vampire Diaries, of course). Go Pinterest crazy, it'll often lead you straight into my next point...
Channel that energy
Similar to the distraction point, except instead of losing yourself in something, channel your feelings into something productive. Pinterest is full of crafty DIY techniques & exciting make up looks to try. Why not actually try them? The same goes for blogging... in fact, that's the reason I'm writing this post today. Even better, channel your energy into working out. If you know me you'll know I'm the most unfit person to probably walk this earth but about 70% of my truly successful workouts are fuelled by my desire for distraction and they help me feeling pretty good by the end. Once you gain this positive outlook, your solutions or ability to get over any situation are so much more effective.
Go back to basics
The fact that you can read this blog post in the first place means that you are so much more privileged and lucky to be where you are, regardless of your situation. The fact you are under a shelter, with food, water, even wi-fi, makes you part of the world's richest population. I read somewhere that at least 80% of the worlds population live on under $10 a day. We're all guilty of relative deprivation (hello sociological term!), that is, feeling deprived in comparison to those around us. It's by no means a cheerful topic, but it's one that we need to be reminded of now and then.
Have a nap
When I was younger I used to have this weird thing, where I would take a nap any time I was scared. I remember taking naps when there was lightening & thunder outside and even once when I was at my nan's and she was dog sitting two huge, like even bigger than me, what I saw as scary dogs. I had the mentality that if I slept it off, when I woke up, I'd be fresher and be able to handle everything. Strange, but I still carry this now (except not over thunder and dogs, obviously!). When I wake up after a distressing day, I'm ready and determined to make the new one better. You should be too.
Most importantly, we need to understand that these things in life happen, whether we're thankful for them or not, but we bounce back and move on. We'll always be happy again.